Solution:
Usually when we have a fight, and we do not deal with the person in the future at all- we usually forget it. However when we fight with someone whom we have deal with in the future, the emotions of anger hang on to us.
Whether it is kids or elders - both of them have fight with people whom they have to deal with in the future, but it seems kids do not keep the anger in their heart for a long, while elders do.
The reason seems to be because:
Kids do not have ego associated with fights. Adults on the other hand tend to take insults more seriously as a blow to their pride and self worth, and tend to think about it instead of just letting it go, forming a grudge. Kids do not have long term associations or goals in their mind, which would be affected by the doing by other person. Kids do not put permanent labels of 'good' and 'bad' to others.
That is why Kids are more into 'forgive and forget' attitude, and have fun.
As kids grow-
Their sense of ego increases. Now they carry an image and do not want to get it spoiled easily. Their labels of 'good' and 'bad' to other objects deepens. Because they observe the good person remain good for longer and same with bad one. (In scriptural language 'Ishta Anishta Buddhii' deepens.) They start setting their goals for a longer term. And along with it the emotions which revolve around goals also stay longer. They start achieving things and take pride in those things as 'mine'. And any emotions around those touch them deeper, and also longer.
The thing to note in above is- both Kids and elders are Mithya Drsithi (with wrong belief) in above case. Because of wrong believes, how kids develop bad emotions to be lasting longer is explained above.
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